A lot of people seem to think that gay men are shallow when seeking someone for a permanent relationship with. But that just isn’t how it is.  Sure most of us prefer a hot, healthy body; heck you can say the same thing about heterosexuals as well. In fact sometimes it is hard for people that do not fit that criteria to find a partner. It can be even harder for gay men because they make up a smaller part of the general population. Even the gay community has its share of shallow types. My belief is that if they do not like me then they can kiss my not so flabby tush.

With age comes wisdom, and as gay men mature, they will tend to mellow out and look for someone who is more of a friend than just a hot body. In the meantime, you are likely stuck playing the game and going to the gym regularly so that you can increase your pick up potential. Appearance is definitely a big factor, but it is not the only thing in the game of love between young gay men. Most guys do not want to date someone that is fat. Personally for me I have to be very attracted to the person before I even think about about approaching another man, let alone start a relationship with them.  I guess that makes me shallow, but satisfied. 

 Why are a lot of young gay men interested in slim trim athletic types? Guys in general are sexual creatures and want to have sex with good looking guys. This also holds true for a lot of young guys are only looking for sex and not any form of long term commitment. But with varying 'attractive' criteria in different cultures, it is still possible for chubby men to get action. It really does not matter the reasons why people choose the way they do. Every group has people who are shallow when it comes to picking a lover its just who they are.

I know many people in my life that I would not consider dating, but I still like them as friends. I have some good hearted friends that I cherish for the friends that they are, and I met many of them on the Internet. That's right, as a matter of fact most of the guys I have dated in the past few years I have met through internet dating sites. Now I know what your thinking, its because I can see what they look like, well that might be part of it but its not the real reason, its because most of the guys I meet online are exactly what I'm looking for. Besides, one of the best advantages of online dating is that when you just don't have the time to go out socializing, it's an easy way to meet and interact with people and it's fun.

I am not interested in the old so called ball and chain at this age in my life, but I do enjoy a some what serious relationship, and I would like it to last more than six months. For me, online dating is a useful tool that helps me find new tools (LOL). If you hook up and it turns out that you're not really interested in a particular person but you sense their being a little pushy just move on to the next person, no harm done. And if by chance they start to hassle you online, well all you have to do is block them, with online dating sites your real email address phone number and address are never given out so there's no worry about someone spying on you following you unless you were stupid and gave them your personal contact information already.  The good thing is that most of the men you will meet on dating sites are decent human beings that are looking for the same things in life that your looking for.

Most men are not overly particular about your looks. They just want to find someone compatible. They want someone with the same interests, personality traits. Someone who is involved with life, who enjoys activity, who gives back to the community. Someone who's company they can enjoy. Someone looking for a more of a commitment than just a one night stand.

So if your looking for love in all the wrong places then join an online dating site to expand your horizons. There are many, many really solid sites out there that are totally committed to helping you find someone special in your life. They have a variety of members from many religions all looking for someone to share their time and lives with. So what are you waiting for? Get off your tush, get online and check them out. You won't be disappointed. If nothing else you're sure to make some good friends. Below is the link to the site that I use, they have so many sites to chose from, I'm sure you'll find one that has what your looking for.


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    My name is Clarissa, I am the writer of this blog. I am happily married and the mother of 2. I enjoy horse back riding, writing ,cooking and spending time with my family. I hope you enjoy your visit to my site.


    October 2011